Wednesday, June 26, 2013

ALL children are as good as all other children...someone tell THAT to Justice Kennedy and the Prop 8 plaintiffs

On the steps of the US Supreme Court today, a plaintiff in the Prop 8 case said that the message from the Supreme Court to same-sex couples is that "your children are just as good as other children."  I am looking for affirmation that all children are equal, no matter what their family structure.  Justice Kennedy writes that the federal differentiation between same- and different-sex couples "humiliates tens of thousands of children now being raised by same-sex couples.  The law in question makes it even more difficult for the children to understand the integrity and closeness of their own family and its concord with other families in their community and in their daily lives."

What about the children of unmarried couples? single mothers? being raised by extended family members?  They also deserve not to be demeaned and humiliated by their family structure.  I can't rejoice until that's true as a legal and a cultural matter.  I hope considering the well-being of children of same-sex couples who marry will be one step in that direction.  It is certainly not an end in and of itself.

I released the following statement today to media outlets that requested my reaction to today's opinions.  Of course I speak for no one but myself:

I am so dismayed by the dismantling of the voting rights act yesterday.  Race is still a central component of who our society values or doesn’t value.  The DOMA opinion means married same-sex couples will be treated as married under federal law.  But the demographics of who marries now is highly skewed by race and class.  There is every reason to assume those demographics will hold for lesbians and gay men as well.  So we will have same-sex couples who don’t marry, just as we have different-sex couples who don’t marry.  And we will have lots of legal consequences linked exclusively to marriage that ignore the vast number of family relationships in this country that are not based on marriage.  I am very happy to see Kennedy’s opinion recognize the dignity that same-sex relationships must be afforded and also recognize how demeaning of gay people it was for Congress to pass DOMA.  But Kennedy refers to DOMA has humiliating the children of same-sex couples. NO children should feel humiliated by their family structure.  Children of unmarried parents should not feel humiliated.  All children are equal and the families that raise them deserve equal respect.

More from me later  about the Supreme Court rulings.


cat said...

Yes! Families come in so many more flavors than just gay or straight lifetime couples and their kids. Rather than let a few more people in the gate of marriage privilege let's eliminate marriage privilege. Let's let people choose their own family structures, keep government out of the marriage business entirely.

acgushurst said...

Thank you for voicing this thought... I have long pondered that as long as there is an "us" versus "them", that simply including each subset - as we identify them as being worthy of inclusion into the "us" group - still is done at the cost of those who remain outside the "us" group.

It's time to change our paradigm to include everyone from the beginning.

Bryan Lambeth said...

When will this country realize we are no longer living in a time when we separate who we are based on race, sex, religion or sexual orientation. Who are we tell someone who they can or can not marry. Better yet, why is the government involved in the first place? Let's be honest, the argument of same-sex marriage is base on religious beliefs. Hey, according to the bible if I had a daughter, could I sell her into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. Also, This year I violated Lev.19:19 by planting two different crops in the same garden. I have an idea, why don't we talk to the gay community to try and have a better understanding on how they feel. If a gay man has been with another man for 10 years then you better believe he should deserve the same benefits I deserve after being with my wife for 10 years. According to Ess (2009) we should be treating everyone with the perspective of "other as other" instead of "other as target",(Kindle Location 2228. Remember, the bible also talks about loving your neighbor. This includes your black neighbor, Muslim neighbor, abortion doctor neighbor and GAY neighbor. As Johannesen (2009) stated, “communicate unto others as you would have them communicate unto you”, (pg 226). So lets be nice to everyone, let them live in peace without discrimination and I promise our world will be a better place.


Ess, C. (2009). Digital Media Ethics.

Johannesen,Valde, Whedbee. (2009). Ethics in Human Communication.

The Bell Tower Times said...

It is sad to think that these views still exist in Australia. It will be some time before they are eradicated.

Here is a more heartwarming story, about a father who clearly brought up with old school attitudes towards homosexuality, yet does his best to bond with his son: